How to Handle Your Ego in a Healthy Way
When you reduce the power of your ego, this will help you become aware that you’re grounded in the truth. And, that who you really are is an expression of pure consciousness.
When you are suffering from trauma, your ego plays tricks on you – and the feelings that come as a result can be very overwhelming and difficult to deal with. One way to handle your ego in a healthy way can be working on forgiveness. And, to help you get started, I have to give you a quick strategy that will help you in your forgiveness process. See, for many, it’s easier to forgive themselves than others. And, for others, it’s easier to forgive other people than themselves. But, for EVERYBODY, forgiveness will be challenging.
Many trauma survivors not only carry the memory of their experiences but also have the belief that it was somehow their own fault. It’s important for you to know that it was not your fault and forgiving yourself is essential to your healing.
Want to know how to differentiate between your voice of ego and the actual situation?
Awareness is the key.
Recognizing that your thoughts and their associated dysfunctional emotional responses can cause you more harm than good is a great way to reduce the power of the ego. Let’s look at an example.
The situation: You are standing in a long, slow-moving checkout line at the store.
What your mind is telling you: “This is a waste of your time.”
Your feeling (response): Irritation and aggravation.
Now, let’s see what would happen if you shift your thoughts. You know, if you regain some control. Notice that the actual situation remains the same.
The situation: You are standing in a long, slow-moving checkout line at the store.
What your mind is telling you: "This is what it is. I cannot change this. So, I am going to take a deep breath and take a look around for something I may enjoy. Maybe there's a cute baby behind me or an interesting article in that magazine in the stand next to me."
Your feeling (response): Patience, kindness, intrigue with the surroundings, etc.
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We can learn from each other. Can you name a situation where you could have responded differently? How would it have changed the outcome? Share your thoughts with us. Leave a comment below!
If you are ready to regain control of your thoughts by reducing your ego’s power, then I have a program for you: my 3-Month Stop Suffering Now and Make Peace With Your Past starting now. To learn more, message me directly or if you prefer to get on my calendar here’s my link: https://www.griefandtraumarelief.com/now.
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